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Milspouse Friday Fill In #39

It’s Milspouse Friday Fill-In again, so head on over to Wife of a Sailor if you’re a milspouse (or significant other *ahem CJ*) and want to link up! And thanks to Wife of a Sailor for hosting again!

1. Have you and your spouse agreed to live in separate locations (a geographical bachelor tour) knowing that the short-term inconvenience would have long-term benefits for your family? How did it work for you? submitted by When Good People Get Together

Yes… I’ll be moving up to DC this summer to start a job and Chris will be staying in GA. Hopefully he’ll get STA-21 this year — are you tired of hearing me talk about that yet? ;) — and he can join me in DC in the spring of next year, otherwise he’ll be out of the Navy in 2013. Or maybe he’ll extend for orders to DC. Who knows. It should work out just fine though. DC isn’t that far from GA (a 9 hour drive/2.5 hour plane ride with a brief stop in Atlanta) and Chris is deployed all the time, so I don’t see him much anyway :P The only problem I anticipate is finding somewhere I can afford in DC with a yard for the dogs.

2. What is your favorite thing about being a MilSpouse? submitted by Sarah Ruth Today

Getting to move around without having to pack myself up or pay for it! I get itchy feet after staying somewhere for about 3 years, so the military is pretty much perfect.

3. If you could still have your spouse/significant other and your family, but take the military life out of it…would you? submitted by Trust. Love. Believe. Bake.

Probably not. I like the military and I don’t see it ever being completely out of our lives. I’m trying to get into the Reserve and if Chris gets out before retiring, he’ll switch to the Reserve too. And then there’s that whole Secretary of Defense thing in my future… yeah, we’re going to be involved with the military in one way or another forever.

4. What have your homecoming experiences been like after a year long tour of separation? submitted by Army Soldier, Army Wife

We don’t do year long tours of separation. We usually do 2-3 months, but 3-4 times a year. Homecomings are just… picking Chris up from the airport and bringing him home. And then I get used to him being home, and he’s gone again!

5. If you have a child(ren) why you chose their name(s)? If not, why you would name your child something? submitted by Tiara’s & ACU’s

I don’t have kids although I have future kids’ names picked out, but I’m keeping them secret so no one takes them. Instead, I’ll tell you about our dogs, both of whom were named by Chris. Bones is named after McCoy from the Original Star Trek series, because Chris wanted a Star Trek themed dog and he thought naming a dog Bones was funny. I wanted to continue the Star Trek theme by naming Shecky Dax, but Chris ix-nayed that one. So she’s named after Shecky Greene, a loveable oaf from days gone by, which works because Shecky is also a loveable oaf ;)

My Addiction

These are the books I read this week. There are currently 3 more sitting on the table next to me.

Oh, and these books? They’re not just any books. They’re ALL romance novels. And they’re all about Navy SEALs.

It’s an addiction.

Luckily, the husband doesn’t mind. But I should probably stop asking him to become a Navy SEAL, especially since I know he can’t (colorblind).

Milspouse Friday Fill In #38

It’s Milspouse Friday Fill-In again, so head on over to Wife of a Sailor if you’re a milspouse (or girlfriend) and want to link up! And thanks to Wife of a Sailor for hosting again!

How many pets do you have? And what type? submitted by Life and Times of a Displaced Jersey Girl

You’d have to be new around here not to know this! We have two dogs. Bones is a year and a half old husky mix, and Shecky is a little over a year old lab mix (we actually think she’s a lab-whippet mix, but have no way to really confirm).



What are your favorite projects to do while hubby is away? submitted by my-inspired-nest

Anything house related. Chris comes home to new comforters, trees in the front yard, new planters, stained decks, etc. He would complain about the cost if he was home, but when he’s gone, no complaints. I have a whole list of house projects on a white board on the side of the fridge. My plan for next time he’s gone is to build a planter in the back yard off the deck and refinish an old table we have in the garage to be an outside dining table for summer. And maybe screen in the porch because what’s the use of an outside dining table if I’m getting eating alive by mosquitoes?

What are the must-haves in your deployment care packages? submitted by Christine’s Little Blog

I don’t get to send care packages because Chris generally isn’t gone long enough to get them and I don’t have contact with the ombudsman or anything for the boat he’s on, so no way to coordinate with them for a mail drop. So instead, I send him a box to open while he’s gone. Must haves: one card/letter per week, hot fries, and sour candy.

If you could star in any TV show, which would it be? submitted by Just a Girl

Burn Notice, but only if I were bad ass enough to hang out with Michael Westen, Fiona, and Sam. If I weren’t, then How I Met Your Mother, because I think they’d be fun to hang out with out. And they live in New York!

What was the biggest hurdle that you faced during your/your significant other’s first deployment? submitted by The Pavlik Perspective

Hmm, our first deployment was pretty non eventful. The biggest thing I was dealing with with taking Shecky to the vet every other week it seemed while they were trying to figure out her skin issues – she was super itchy and scratching bald spots on herself. They finally started treating her for environmental allergies right before he came home.

We Heart Wednesday: Monterey

Lately, I’ve been missing Monterey. I loved Monterey and think I could happily live there forever. Well, except that it’s in California and I don’t want to be a California resident ever again. But if the Navy wanted to send Chris back to do language training forever and I could maintain GA residency, we would both be happy.

So today’s We Heart Wednesday is dedicated to Monterey.

[Ok, would this have really been complete without the Mucky Duck? I would love one of their black forest ham melts right about now. 1/2 price Wednesdays? $3 drafts and well drinks just about every day? I love that place... until about 10 pm on weekends. Then you might get shanked.]

[This is where you go after the Mucky Duck to avoid getting shanked.]

[Naval Postgraduate School. I worked as a contractor there for almost two years.]

[DLI. I spent many lunches up there eating with Chris and mornings working out in their gym or running on their track. I could hear reveille and taps every morning and night from my apartment.]

[Not going to lie - this place was a little intimidating to walk into, because I was almost guaranteed to be the only civilian in the place. But they make awesome sandwiches and Navy were authorized to wear utilities inside, so if I met Chris for lunch, it was one of few options.]

[Ok, so that's Pacific Grove. But I lived in Pacific Grove, just down the street from this. Much prettier than downtown Augusta.]

So I started out just kind of missing Monterey, and now I really miss Monterey. I think I need to convince Chris that we need to vacation out there. Soon.

Chiefs ≠ Sergeants

I like to read books about Navy SEALs. (I think I’ve mentioned my unhealthy obsession with Navy SEALs before.) For the most part, I overlook inaccuracies in the same way that I do when I watch Army Wives. These things are for entertainment and not meant to be documentaries. But when authors make little errors that are stupid things that could be easily checked, it annoys me.


A Sergeant is the equivalent of a Chief.
No, a Sergeant is the equivalent of a Petty Officer Second Class.

A Senior Chief is the king of Chiefs.
Really? I bet a Master Chief would be surprised to hear that. And if you want to get really technical, there’s only one King of Chiefs and he is the MCPON.

We’ll determine who sleeps on the floor by rank and rating.
Ok, let’s try that. You’re a CDR, I’m a CTI, and he’s an IS. Who gets the floor? Chris says, ‘One of the enlisted people, duh.’ Yes, but which one? Rating is a job. Rate is the enlisted equivalent of rank; only officers have rank. The terms are not interchangeable.

Yes sir, Chief.
Uh, have you ever called a Chief sir? They *hate* that. I called a Chief sir once when I was at OCS [because I had no contacts and could only make out khaki... figured it was better to assume officer since it was at OCS] and was quickly reprimanded and told “I work for a living; don’t call me sir.” So noted.

Anyway, I will get off my soapbox now. These are just basic things that should be caught if you have a military advisor (which this particular author did). I get caught up in the book and then I run into one of those errors and it snaps me back into reality. Way to ruin the book.

This must be how Chris feels when he watches movies about the Navy and says, “That’s not really like that. That could never happen. That’s so not realistic.” I always shush him because he’s interrupting my movie, but I guess those things are interrupting the movie for him too.

So what about you? Do things like that ruin books/tv/movies for you or can you overlook them?

Milspouse Friday Fill-In # 37

Thanks again to Wife of a Sailor for hosting Milspouse Friday Fill-In!

1. With PCS moves happening every few years, do you take the time to paint and decorate your home? submitted by Life as Mrs. JPT

With Chris’s job, we actually could spend his whole career at this base. But because I do not want that to happen and we’re planning to sell this house when we move, I thought it would be better off leaving it builder beige. It is decorated though – there’s no reason not to decorate! Hopefully when we get to DC, we’ll buy a forever (or at least for quite a while) house and paint and decorate there.

2. If you could live in any home on a television series, what would it be? submitted by Standing By Him

Hm. I think I’ll pick Bud and Harriett’s house from JAG. I wish I could find a picture, but I can’t. It was just sort of an old fashioned house with character and a big yard, in Northern Virginia. I would love to have that house.

3. What inspired you to start your blog? submitted by Pink Combat Boots

I’ve had a blog for a very long time… I don’t remember when I first started, but I think it was either a livejournal or a xanga. I’ve always had journals and loved to write, so it seemed like a natural progression. This particular blog was inspired by the memorial service I attended for CPL Joseph Anzack, a soldier from my hometown who was killed in Iraq.

4. What is the weirdest thing you’ve ever seen on base? submitted by Adventures in Life

I don’t know that I’ve ever seen anything that weird on base. Hmmm. Yeah, totally blanking… I basically only go for the gym, commissary and post office. OH. The post office! You know how post offices are usually miserable places where everyone is waiting impatiently? Whenever I’ve been in the one here, people are humming or actually singing aloud to the Motown CD they play. And when I went in at Christmas, not only were people singing Motown Christmas songs, people were actually dancing in line!

5. Which historical figure (politician, writer, artist, scientist, actor, etc…) would you like to have dinner with? submitted by Army of Two

I would like to say King Arthur, but since he was an amalgam of people and probably not a real historical person, that’s probably a cop-out. So I’ll say Merlin. (Ha! Just kidding.) My real choice is Ronald Reagan. I think he’d be fun to hang out with for a meal.

Running Motivation

Sitting at dinner, talking about running.

Me: I think I’m going to try to run three miles without stopping on Saturday.
Chris: Do you want to know what I do when I want to stop running? I say, “Hey, stop being a wuss.”
Me: Do you know what the difference between you and me is?
Chris: You’ll admit that you’re a wuss?

Oh, it is so on. I’m running three miles without stopping on Saturday, even if it kills me. I have enough stubbornness in me to propel my dead body to the end of the three mile loop. I’ll watch an episode of Alias, set my iPod to Navy SEAL cadences (yes, I really do run to those when I want to feel hardcore… what is wrong with me?), put on my OCS PT shirt (inside out) to remind myself that I’m capable of more than I think I am*, and finish that 3 mile loop. In 18 minutes. Ok, probably more like 36 minutes, but I’ll finish it!

[If you're wondering, the difference between Chris and me is that the way I feel after running 2 miles is the way he feels after running about 9 miles... and he normally only does between 3 and 6, so I'm already pushing myself harder than he pushes himself. I am not a wuss. Q.E.D.]

* I didn’t stay at OCS very long, but I lasted long enough to pass the PRT… after only a couple hours of sleep, running up and down stairs all day, and being blind because I didn’t have contacts or glasses. See, more proof of my hardcoreness.

Fun with my Parents

While Chris was gone (on the shortest deployment ever!), my parents came to visit for a week. And when they come, I get to go exploring parts of Georgia that I otherwise wouldn’t. It was Masters week too, so I wanted to get out of Augusta because this city is just a mess when its Masters week. Luckily, I don’t live near the golf course, so I can happily exist in the vicinity of my house without being caught up in a huge traffic jam.

On Saturday night — the second day my parents were there — Shecky did something to reinjure her CCL. She started limping, shaking, and even threw up from the pain :( Unfortunately, because of her severe allergy problems (she scratches herself until she’s bald and bloody) she’s on steroids and she has to be off her steroids for a couple days before she can have her pain meds. I’m talking to the vet about whether there is anything we can do in this situation if it happens again in the future, because it sucks to know that she’s in so much pain and there’s nothing I can do about it. As it was, we set her up on the couch with a heating pad and she laid around. By the next day, she was pretty much back to normal.

We went to the nursery (of the plant variety) one day to find out what I could plant in my planter that wouldn’t die and what we have to do to get things to not die in the sticky red clay. The guy directed us to Indian Hawthorne and instructed us to take out half the clay and mix it with manure. Done! My plants are doing nicely now, though they’re still small. I was too cheap to buy the bigger ones and the guy said they grow really fast. We also planted a silver maple tree in the front yard! It really did make the yard look so much nicer!

Another day, we went to Madison, which is a cute little historical city. It was the day after a big storm and tons of old trees had fallen over, which was really sad. We browsed around in candy shops and antique shops for a bit and just walked around. This is the courthouse – isn’t it cute?

It’s really dog friendly too – everywhere had bowls of water set outside for dogs. The best was the one that had a statue of Uga next to it. Bones thought it was a real dog and would run up to it, jump back, crawl back toward it, jump back, repeat. Two old ladies sitting at a table on the sidewalk were cracking up and then one of them said, “Well she must be a Georgia Tech fan.” Ha!

This is Uga

Then because we were only half an hour from Athens, we decided to head up there. I’ve never been before, but I will definitely be going back to explore.

We went to the Varsity, where we all got chili dogs and onion rings and even Bones and Shecky got hot dogs, because they are spoiled by my dad. I think I prefer the Varsity in Atlanta though.

The Varsity in Athens

And after we went to the Varsity, we found something amazing… Trader Joe’s! I bought an insulated bag and stocked up on ginger cat crackers, tomato soup, dog treats, garlic naan, gyoza, curry sauce, chana masala, flax seed chips, etc. Yum. I need Trader Joe’s in my life. Can’t wait until I get to DC and it’s not an hour and a half drive away!

The last place we went was Savannah. We ate at Moon River Brewing Company (because they let us have the dogs with us outside), then wandered along the riverfront sampling pralines and exploring.

Mmm Savannah. on Twitpic

My parents left early Friday morning, and Friday morning….

Look what I found at the airport! #Deploymentcancelled on Twitpic

Deployment got cancelled and Chris was home :) It would have been nice if they had cancelled the deployment before he left, but I won’t complain about a two week deployment. If only they were all that short!

And that’s what I’ve been up to.

100 Facts About Me, Part III

I promise that there is a post to come about my poor baby Shecky’s knee; beautifying my front yard; day trips to Madison, Athens (and Trader Joe’s!!!!), and Savannah; and a very exciting announcement (that is not pregnancy related!). But for now, I’m still enjoying hanging out with parents, so here’s the next installment of my 100 facts about me. Hope you enjoy!

1. When I don’t know how to pronounce a word, I spell it instead of trying to guess.
2. I hate putting away laundry.
3. I also hate emptying the dishwasher.
4. But I love to vacuum.
5. I secretly want to be a ballerina.
6. I still have the entire Sweet Valley High series in a box in my closet.
7. I don’t like my sandwiches to crunch unless it’s from potato chips.
8. Pausing in the middle of a fiction book ruins it for me – I try to wait until I can read it from start to finish without stopping.
9. In grad school, I ate Subway so often that just walking by it makes me gag a little.
10. I have an MA in International Policy with certificates in Russian Studies and Nonproliferation Studies.
11. That’s a mouthful, so I usually just say I have a degree in nuclear weapons.
12. If I ever leave Chris, it will be for Zac Brown or Kevin from Top Chef.
13. On a related note, my “type” is chubby Southern guys with beards.
14. Yet I married a skinny boy who hates Southern accents and isn’t allowed to have facial hair most of the time.
15. The first CD I ever owned was Abbey Road (the Beatles).
16. I love college football. Go Cardinal!
17. I *hate* the SEC and think they’re overrated. (Sorry, Southerner friends.)
18. My current favorite TV shows are Psych, How I Met Your Mother, the Office, Bones and Merlin.
19. My all time favorite tv show? American Dreams.
20. I do crossword puzzles in pen.
21. My favorite pie is pecan. Preferably with bourbon.
22. When I remember something embarrassing, I close my eyes and make a loud buzzing sound.
23. Even though I’m happy that I’ve spent the first two years of my marriage living with Chris, I sometimes worry that it’s holding me back in my career and I’m not ever going to make it to secretary of Defense now.
24. The first concert I ever went to was Dave Matthews Band.
25. The best concert I ever went to was Zac Brown Band.

Milspouse Friday Fill-In #36

It’s Milspouse Friday Fill-In again, so head on over to Wife of a Sailor if you’re a milspouse (or girlfriend) and want to link up! And thanks to Wife of a Sailor for hosting again!

What romance movie scene reminds you of your s/o or spouse and the LOVE you share? submitted by Simply Sunshine and Daisy’s

Uhhhh. Geez. I’m not a hearts and flowers kind of girl, really. I can’t think of one scene, but I’ll just go with the whole movie Fever Pitch. Except instead of being obsessed with the Red Sox, he’s obsessed with Star Trek :P And we’re both pretty goofy.

If you were allowed to deploy with your husband to a war zone would you and why? submitted by I & J

No way no how! He deploys in a sub and I couldn’t handle that. The idea of being underwater in a boat designed to sink freaks me out. If he were going on an IA on land or assigned to surface, maybe. If we could find someone to take care of the dogs ;)

Have you ever done anything (intentionally, or unintentionally) to embarrass your spouse/significant other in front of his military cohorts? submitted by Marrying the Navy

Not to my knowledge. Chris doesn’t embarrass easily, but I’m around all his military cohorts all the time so that’s pretty impressive.

What is your most irrational fear? submitted by Eights on the Move

My fear of the Mexican border. I get semi-panicky driving in San Diego because I worry about accidentally going too far and ending up in Mexico. Weird? Yes. And before you ask – I wouldn’t mind going to other parts of Mexico, but the border area is just nuts.

If you could only live in one kind of climate for the rest of your life, what would it be and why? submitted by Many Waters

I would want it to be overcast and drizzly year round. Love it! I *hate* being hot, especially if humidity is involved. I’m also not a fan of short sleeved shirts. I could happily wear sweaters and jeans year round, and I love when it rains :)


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